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He Never Kisses Me Anymore

The last time I kissed passionately was last night. It wasn't the little sweet peck on the lips or quick kiss, it was a "real" kiss. The kind of kiss that's so passionate and loving that it made me feel like the most desirable person alive. One of the best parts about this kiss was that I was one the initiated it. Kissing passionately takes two and if both people in the relationship stop initiating the passionate kiss, it eventually goes away. When it's gone, it's sometimes hard to bring back.

Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Dr. Jim Witte, and myself conducted the largest study ever done on relationships (surveyed over 100,000 people around the world) and the data we uncovered on passionate kissing was fascinating. When we asked couples in the United States if they kissed passionately, they were quick to say yes, 70 percent said, "Of course we do!" But, when we asked how often they kissed, that was a different story.


Are Gay Couples the Same As Straight Couples?

"Normal" is a loaded word, we know. For the sake of this article, we're keeping the concept real simple - "normal" is what you're willing to accept and the regular pattern you stick with on an ongoing basis. "Normal" is the rules you create and regularly follow. For those who don't think there is a normal, think again.

Let's take a look at what's normal in a couple's relationship. We can all agree that love, affection, trust, sexual attraction and intimacy, and good communication are all "normal" goals in a couple's relationship. That was borne out by The Normal Bar Project, the most extensive study ever conducted on relationships. We surveyed nearly 100,000 people worldwide, asking 1,300 questions that explored every aspect of couplehood. The result was a much clearer vision of the various "norms" in relationships, and more important, what's normal in happy relationships.


Five surprising facts about what's "normal" in a happy couple's relationship

Curious about what very happy, even extremely happy people confess when asked intimate questions about their relationship? We have it!

The Normal Bar is the most in depth extensive study ever done on relationships; currently over 90,000 people have participated in the study. With millions of answers to every question you could imagine, the authors of The Normal Bar book, Chrisanna Northrup, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, and Dr. Jim Witte have all the answers.

Here are five fascinating findings on what happens behind doors-among even very happy and extremely happy couples!


5 Rules to Creating a Romantic Valentine's Day

We conducted the most extensive in-depth relationship study in the world (surveying over 100,000 people) and we discovered that the world is even more romance starved than we thought! 64% men and 63% women in our study said they want more romance!

We think there are millions of couples all over the United States secretly and not so secretly craving more romance and while we can't order a quick long term fix, we can offer a short term one: Take advantage of Valentine's Day! It's the perfect day to play catch up and raise the romance quotient in your relationship.

We know however that men in particular break into a cold sweat, trying to figure out what will surprise or at least please their partner. So, taking several cues from our research, we are here to help.


The Perfect Gift

If you are stumbling around in stores or searching online for hours for the "perfect gift" for somebody special, you are not alone. Giving your partner a gift can be as simple as writing or quoting a poem, sending a love note or flowers or offering a relaxing massage. However, data from The Normal Bar (our book based on the most extensive study every done on relationships) shows us that giving nothing is definitely toxic and, over time, will actually harm your relationship.

Furthermore, we found a strong connection between gift-giving and sexual satisfaction. Of those who said they never receive romantic gifts of any kind, 64 percent of women and 88 percent of men were also dissatisfied with their sex lives. Perhaps the lack of gifts meant a lack of general romanticism in the relationship or just that extra caring touch that makes your partner want to embrace you, but the correlation between gift giving and eroticism in the relationship is definitely something to keep in mind as you are finishing up your holiday shopping.

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