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Why are you a better lover?

More uninhibited. In my 60s, not as concerned about body image. Know more than I used to.

- Female, 67 years old, married

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- Male, married (separated) with kids

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- Male, in a relationship with kids

I pay attention to my lovers words, desires and act on my own. You only get this from being with different people before you settle down in the rut of marriage. Stay single and hone your skills as a mover; it is worth it!

- Female, 49 years old

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- Male, married (separated) with kids

My husband is not sexually selfish as my first husband was. Therefore, he "gets" more because he gives more, way more.

- Female, 49 years old, married 19 years

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I am overweight, and since my lover has got me to believe that he loves me just the way I am sex is great.

- Female, 36 years old, married 4 years

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I have more patience and am willing to take care of my partners needs and wants for a significant length of time before focusing on myself.

- Male, 58 years old, married 25 years

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I make sure I know what my partner likes and I do those things to please her. I always try and add in something that might please her to increase the "toolbox" i take to bed based on her satisfaction.

- Male, 40 years old, married 18 years

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I think that I am a better lover because my partner and I are open to exploring different ways of pleasuring each other, different positions, different places to have sex.

- Female, 51 years old, 3 year relationship

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It's all about the love. If you are happy, the love flows, the intimacy is strong. When I'm in love, and love my partner unconditionally, I am in a love zone. What to pleasure him in everyway and vice versa.

- Female, 42 years old, married 19 years

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Understand my body and know what turns my man on!

- Female, 78 years old, married 25 years

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I've learned to be a better lover through research and practice. I'm also more relaxed and confident.

- Male, 53 years old, 6 month relationship

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The more I improve my fitness and get in better shape, the sexier I feel?makes me a better lover!

- Female, 39 years old, married 15 years

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I'm a better lover due to my maturity. Being more specific, as a young lover, the focus tended to be more on my own satisfaction or orgasm. Now my focus is on my partner and making certain he loves every minute with me....it is such a turn on to see the excitement in him because I care so much about pleasing him to the max. It not only makes it better for him, but for myself as well. I also know exactly how to move and position myself to achieve deep, sensual penetration, no matter what position we are participating in. I'm also more open about touching and using my mouth and trusting my husband enough to do whatever he wishes.

- Female, 59 years old, married 1 year

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- Female, married (separated)

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- Female, divorced

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What is your most romantic memory and what is your ideal romantic evening?

Romantic Memory:
A night we camped in a tent in the front yard and made love.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
A quiet dinner out and return home to make love

- Male, 35-44 years old, Separated - single

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- Male, married (separated) with kids

Romantic Memory:
Dancing and holding each other in a club.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Have dinner, laugh, chat with friends, go out with friends, kiss in public, dance together, make love.

- Male, 18-24 years old, Never married - single

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Romantic Memory:
Crying after sex that was so good with her I broke down

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Six hours in bed with her, alone, and no interruptions.

- Male, 45-54 years old, Divorced - domestic partnership

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Romantic Memory:
A great weekend at the beach that happened 22 years ago.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
A trip to some special place together.

- Male, 55+ years old, Never married - single

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Romantic Memory:
The first kiss

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Nice dinner, good movie, make love, fall asleep together.

- Male, Divorced with kids - dating seriously

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Romantic Memory:
Getting married by Elvis impersonator.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Big Italian dinner and live show.

- Male, 45-54 years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
First time having sex, camping with one another

Ideal Romantic Evening:
just hanging out and being able to be with one another doing something we both enjoy.

- Male, 18-24 years old, Never married - dating seriously

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Romantic Memory:
Weekend in KC, skipped a concert to make love in the hotel room.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Cruise with sexual intimacy daily.

- Male, 55+ years old, Marired with kids

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Romantic Memory:
Taking a bath together by candle light and romantic music

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Doing anything with her.

- Male, 55+ years old, Divorced - domestic partnership

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Romantic Memory:
Realizing I was in love.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
A short vacation to enjoy our hobbies.

- Male, 55+ years old, Married

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Romantic Memory:
We spend the entire weekend at home pleasing one another sexually.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Going out to dinner & movie, while out we hold hands. When we arrive home we have passionate sex.

- Male, 45-54 years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
Driving across the country with her

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Dinner and a nice walk

- Male, 18-24 years old, Never married - single

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Romantic Memory:
Making a Valentine's Day dinner along with cheesecake for dessert after having her come home from work to a candle-lit bubble bath

Ideal Romantic Evening:
doing whatever we wanted and having a good time together

- Male, 45-54 years old, Married

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Romantic Memory:
She was 28 and on my 33 birthday she sat me in a chair and did a seductive dance.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Locally, I would take a day off of work. We would do something outside i.e. 9 holes of Golf Boat cruise, garden park and then shopping at the Outlet. Rest and then go have some dinner, she would be wearing something cute, flirt w/ me during the evening

- Male, 45-54 years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
Making love in the cotton field on the way to a wedding.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Dinner and a nice show in London

- Male, 55+ years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
When he asks me to join him because he knows I'm feeling down

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Sex all night.

- Same Sex couple

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Romantic Memory:
Early date, she initiated sex in car

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Any activity, partner teasing to keep arousal level high then go home, massage and make love.

- Male, 55+ years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
Making love on a balcony

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Great meal and sex

- Male, 55+ years old, Married with kids

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Romantic Memory:
She sent a box of cookies to my hotel when I had to travel to handle my mom's estate

Ideal Romantic Evening:
We take long week-end trips to out-of-town sporting or other events and hit the town.

- Male, 55+ years old, Divorced with kids - single

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Romantic Memory:
Gave me the greatest birthday of my life.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
A long night spent at a romantic restaurant talking until the establishment closed, then a long stroll back to her or my place in which we made love.

- Male, 18-24 years old, Never married - dating seriously

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Romantic Memory:
Drinking wine, eating cheese on our balcony looking at Vesuvius

Ideal Romantic Evening:
Spending an evening in a French B&B that has a bath tub large enough for two--champagne and dessert followed by mutual massage and love making.

- Male, 55+ years old, Widowed - domestic partnership

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Romantic Memory:
When she wore nothing underneath her dress during Valentine's dinner 10 years ago. Staying at b and b's early on and backpacking with her.

Ideal Romantic Evening:
She would arrange for childcare without me having to do it. Figure out a way to pay for a night out without it coming back on me. Listening to calm/friendly live music. Asking about things I'm interested in. Not falling asleep early or complaining about

- Male, 45-54 years old, Married

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- Female, 20 years old, in a relationship for 4 years

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That I don't believe him when he says he doesn't remember if he had already told me "I love you" when he made out with one of his girl friends, short time before we went official.

- Female, 20 years old, in a relationship for 3 years

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What is a secret that you haven't shared with your partner?

I gave some money to my daughter.

- Female, 53 years old, divorced, re-married 2 years with kids

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That I don't believe him when he says he doesn't remember if he had already told me "I love you" when he made out with one of his girl friends, short time before we went official.

- Female, 20 years old, in a relationship for 3 years

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- Male, married (separated) with kids

Interesting. If I felt that that I needed to give money to one of my kids without telling my spouse, of course I will give the money to my child. But I will then analyze why I have to do it secretly...because, on some level, there is clearly a problem with trust. I MAY eventually decide that my relationship with my spouse is important enough that I simply need to accept the lack of trust. But, I would hope that we could come to understand each other and eliminate that.

- Male, 58 years old, divorced, 36 year relationship with kids

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- Female, divorced, re-married

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- Male, divorced with kids

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- Female, single

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- Male, married with kids

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- Male, married (separated) with kids

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That I started smoking again.

- Female, 39 years old, divorced, 6 month relationship

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That I masturbate.

- Male, 68 years old, married 26 years with kids

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I'm sorry, but everyone doesn't masturbate...so I don't see where you have the right to tell him that his wife is an idiot.

- Female, 35 years old, married 11 years with kids

She's right. My boyfriend loves masturbating. And guess what, so do I. And when the timing and mood is right, I love to masturbate in front of him. I've had some amazing orgasims with his energy coaching me on. Im guessing she needs to get more comfortable with herself. How can she be open to someone elses body and sexuality if she's yet to concour her own. Good luck dear friend! And keep masturbating. Enjoy it.

- Female, 23 years old, in a relationship for 2 years

If the fact that you masturbate is a secret, your wife is an idiot, period. Everyone masturbates.

- Female, 33 years old, married 10 years

Several years ago, I was suicidal for several months, but I am much better now.

- Female, 38 years old, married 4 years

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Sexual fantasies.

- Female, 42 years old, married 21 years with kids

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Find a way to tell him. Open the window to being sexually pleased like never before.

- Female, 23 years old, in a relationship for 2 years

I was involved with a friend of his, right before we started dating.

- Female, 30 years old, relationship for 3 years

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I hide my worries and fears.

- Female, 45 years old, married 18 years with kids

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I am in charge of paying the mortgage and the bills. Idon't always have enough to pay everything and live the lifestyle we want so I used our home equity line. We've accrued over $100,000 of debt and she doesn't know.

- Male, 47 years old, married 19 years with kids

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I agree with last comment. Please look into Dave Ramsey's financial peace university. It will save your marriage and help you dig yourselves out of the hole you created together. Best wishes!

- Female, 44 years old, married 19 years with kids

The crude remarks I see on my screen are not necessary. I understand where he's coming from exactly. I recommend daveramsey.com. Dave can help through great financial coaching.

- Male, 52 years old, married 32 years with kids

It's obvious he has a problem. You just sound like a vicious asshole.

- Female, 23 years old, in a relationship for 5 years

I don't hold out much hope for reconciliation.

- Female, 61 years old, married 21 years (separated) with kids

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I am emotionally involved with someone else, whom I've come to love.

- Female, 49 years old, married 26 years

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Don't waste what time you have in this life. If you're in love, talk to both people. Look honestly at your marriage -- can you work on it? Emotional affairs are just as devastating to marriages/relationships as physical affairs.

- Female, 54 years old, in a relationship for 7 years with kids

I go to the donut shop and eat donuts.

- Male, 50 years old, relationship for 3 years

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I don't want to be married anymore.

- Male, 42 years old, married 15 years with kids

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It's probably not as much a secret as you think unless she is totally disconnected from you. You might as well own up to it. No reason for you to stay & be miserable! For the record, I don't want to be married any more either... Just waiting till I get another job so I can support myself

- Female, 33 years old, married 10 years

I am bisexual.

- Female, 31 years old, married 4 years with kids

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I am bisexual too. She knows I've had encounters, but she is in no way delighted. I'm also a transvestite...she knows, hates, and thins I've stopped. I also love porn, and hate fat hicks, she's ballooned t o 250 pounds, complexly let herself go, and I am wondering why I'm still here.

- Male, married 22 years with kids

Tell him. He may be delighted. (Seriously!) If he is not, at least it will be out in the open. The two of you will probably come to very good terms with it. If not, at least you won't be kind of living a lie. When you are not living your own life, you WILL suffer from depression.

- Male, 58 years old, divorced, 36 year relationship with kids

I have continued a relationship with another woman that I had started before I met my partner.

- Male, 61 years old, divorced, re-married 6 months with kids

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My heart goes out to the this man's wife.

- Female, 41 years old, married 16 years with kids

I still fake having an orgasm.

- Female, 31 years old, relationship for 4 years

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23 year old lass is brilliant , truly one must find oneself before one can find another , this applies as much to orgasms as it does to finding a partner . personally , nothing on earth can stop me until i succeed in a true orgasm with a lass :P maybe thats just me

- Male, 23 years old, single

That 33 year old sounds like an ignorant bit h who isn't comfortable in her own body and who never orgasims herself. First step: touch yourself, a lot, in all types of "settings and moods". YOU HAVE TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF. AND MOST IMPORTANT: ORGASIMS ARE EXTREMELY MENTAL!!! As well as physical. And it's true. MEN WANT TO PLEASE US. My boyfriend, John tells me that pleasing me is his favorite part b/c once he cums, it's over. Xxox

- Female, 23 years old, in a relationship for 5 years

Some men need direction. Men don't ask for directions. Each time try and give him subtle hints...like I was almost there if you did this...just talk positively about what you like...most men want to satisfy their spouse. You have to help him find the combination to your safe...otherwise he'll just keep spinning because that's all he knows....

- Male, 40 years old, married 14 years with kids

She didn't say that she doesn't LIKE sex, or that she wants to "get out of having sex". My wife never had orgasms during vaginal sex...but she enjoyed it anyway, and was generally very content when I had an orgasm and she didn't. It's a shame that she feels that she needs to fake orgasms. I think that if I can't talk to my partner about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING, then I should not be with that partner.

- Male, 58 years old, divorced, 36 year relationship with kids

You do what you have to... Too bad he can't just leave you alone! Do what you can to get out of having sex.

- Female, 33 years old, married 10 years

Try to get therapy, it will make you both closer and intimacy is needed for a relationship to work

- Female, 32 years old, divorced, 2 year relationship

That I have a blog on depression.

- Female, 65 years old, married 26 years with kids

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A fantasy of mine.

- Female, 18 years old, relationship for 6 months

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Policies for my future that I have taken out.

- Female, 45 years old, married 16 years with kids

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When I get bonus checks at work, I hide that from him. He loves my money.

- Female, 45 years old, divorced, re-married 4 years with kids

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When he was in jail I slept with 2 other guys.

- Female, 34 years old, relationship for 7 years

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JUST 2? How long was he in jail and how often is he in jail. I would use the time wisely and know that it is your open to enjoy sex with any men you want knowing where he is with no chance of getting caught. He does the crime; enjoy the NSA freedom this allows you and enjoy the men you hook up with!

- Female, 37 years old, in a relationship for 12 years

You have sexual need. I am glad to hear you are able to slept with 2 guys. You have at least your mind out of ur husband.

- Male, 38 years old, married 9 years with kids

Her engagement ring is not a real diamond.

- Male, 36 years old, married 4 years

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Ifyou love your wife and feel badly about this, save up some money together and get her an "upgrade" when you can afford it. It will make both of you feel great and then will make it easier to confide in her about her first ring, just make sure that the upgrade is real!

- Female, 44 years old, married 17 years with kids

You should tell her. If she says "okay, so? I'm glad you didn't waste money on crap", she's a keeper. If she flips out, you know she's just a gold digger.

- Female, 33 years old, married 10 years

When he was serving in the Army in Iraq, I slept with another man.

- Female, 21 years old, relationship for 2 years

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endless mounds of this tripe isn't there . is there any such thing as faithfulness left in the world ?

- Male, 23 years old, single

I have committed adultery on a regular basis. I have an ongoing lover that I talk with daily and we share intimacy with each other that I do not have with my spouse. I am always on the lookout for new lovers and will probably never stop, even if caught. Tired of feeling like a caged bird because of financial reasons.

- Female, 38 years old, married for 10 years

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Sometimes it is not that simple in mid-life to just stop and pack up the marriage and start again financially for either of us. I am a caged bird as well, and have been for 10 years now. I have had many many affairs and more sex than I ever get at home but I have not been caught; YET. If I am caught, I will carry on as is when the dust settles with my husband. There are no kids involved here, just $$ and belongings. I need no psych help, thank you and am happy as is with this arrangement and live very well with myself.

- Female, 50 years old, married 25 years

I was exactly like you at your age and in my first marriage. Unfortunately I got caught cheating. And I will have to live with the fear that my ex tells my children or my mother the truth - that I was a cheat. The only thing you have is your integrity. I promise you - you can find someone that fulfills you and you won't need to be on the lookout for new lovers. I promise you.

- Female, 47 years old, divorced, re-married 9 years with kids

She already said that she feels caged "because of financial reasons". She probably wonders how she can live with herself, too. You are correct...she needs help...she needs a "backbone"...but criticizing her for what she already knows is wrong is not going to help.

- Male, 58 years old, divorced, 36 year relationship with kids

You need help! If you don't care about your spouse, have the respect the get out of the marriage. What a low thing to do...and worse, a low thing to be. How do you live with yourself?

- married 20 years with kids

I don't have as much money as he has. He is very comfortable financially and I pay for all my own needs and some of his. My needs are simple and I have as much as I need, however, he would be hostile if I needed some money from him. If I discussed it with him he would get very nasty and I would be considered a threat.

- Female, 35 years old, married for 12 years with kids

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Yes, he is "trash". But...before you leave him, you need to do everything you possibly can to fix the problem. Try to talk about it. Try counseling. Don't leave until you are CERTAIN that you have done all you can do. If you have done all you can do, and that does not fix this VERY SERIOUS problem, then you can leave without ever having any doubts. Believe me...that matters. A lot.

- Male, 58 years old, divorced, 36 year relationship with kids

You need to leave him, he is trash

- Female, 33 years old, married 10 years

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- Male, 40 years old, in a relationship for 9 years

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I appeared on TV months before starting our relationship. I'm too shy to let him see the show!

- Female, 23 years old, in a relationship for 2 years

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Hmm. You're too shy but you appeared on a tv show? Be honest with yourself. I think that's a problem. Truly shy people would never go on tv.

- Male, 45 years old, married 21 years with kids

During the 23 years of my marriage, I wanted my ex to die so I could collect life insurance and have his family still love me... Instead I finally divorced him.

- Female, 47 years old, divorced with kids

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My marriage broke up due to an affair with a married man. My ex does not know that I had slept with one previous man prior to my current relationship. I'm currently in love with my lover.

- Female, 41 years old, married 20 years (separated)

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My marriage is still together after being involved with a married man 10 years.Hubby does not know that I have been having sex with this man regularly almost half of our marriage.My lover and I do love one another but don't choose to be together, we just want to enjoy one another without the commitment or routine of being exclusive.Our spouses would leave us if they knew of our affair but we are loving every minute of our unencumbered sex life and all its twists and turns along the way.

- Female, 45 years old, married 18 years

I held so many secrets for so long. Two years ago told my wife that I was bisexual and kinky (never acted on either) and sexually frustrated. We have opened up to sharing new sexual experiences and I have never been happier in our relationship. Life is better without secrets and with good communication.

- Male, 44 years old, married 21 years with kids

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There shouldn't be any secrets in a relationship. Glad you told her and all is great between you. Remember that communication is a MUST in all our relationships.

- Female, 36 years old, married 1 years

I have given up hope for a real marriage. My husband sleeps in a different room because he snores and goes to bed very early and is up early. When not working, he watches sports and plays computer games. We've had a sexless marriage for over 8 years. He says it's because I'm angry. I feel like I'm always holding my breath.

- Female, 51 years old, married 21 years with kids

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Sounds like my marriage too. I would say my wife, never smiles, is always angry. I don't watch tv or do games, but live a very active life. Her being upset, or in a depressing mood, not usually happy, she always sleeps in her clothes-- is a huge turn off. mainly not smiling, not happy. the clothes part is mentioned in the book I believe-- but I can tell you it really sucks. She is very attractive and has a smoking hot body--

- Male, 45 years old, married 21 years with kids

I know what you mean! My husband is the same way I feel more like roommates than a couple.

- Female, 35 years old, married 16 years with kids

I suffer from depression.

- Female, 35 years old, married 16 years with kids

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You are not alone in feeling that way, I hope you and I both find a way to be permanently happy ! I have suffered many things in my childhood that still affect me today and add to my depression along with feeling like im not deeply cared for by my husband. I feel like he's not interested in keeping my heart just keeping my legs open. my husband doesn't know the full extent to how un happy I am and I wish that would change.

- Female, 25 years old, married 1 years with kids

I don't like our sex life it sucks. I remember we were always happy, we use to sleep nude but not no more, She makes me feel sex is dirty.

- Male, 58 years old, married 37 years with kids

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We used to sleep clothed; now sleep nude and don't have sex.Sex should be pleasurable, we just don't desire one another like that anymore.

- Female, 51 years old, married 30 years

Ever since the birth of our 2nd child, I can't stand the thought of sex. I don't like it, and I don't like my husband touching me. I am always tired from taking care of the kids/house and have no desire to be with my husband sexually.

- Female, 35 years old, married 11 years with kids

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I'm suicidal over being a bisexual transvestite freak. I am driven towards the fetish, tranny/gay/freak, thing. Im just not straight.

- Male, 48 years old with kids

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That I want more sex, that I masturbate almost daily after she goes to work, That I've had affairs with other women. She has had an hysterectomy and doesn't like vaginal sex now.

- Male, 69 years old, married 38 years with kids

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I want more sex too! I watch my husband masturbate daily in the shower before he goes to work. He does not know that I am there masturbating as he pleasures himself.

- Female, 50 years old, married 20 years

I started having affairs 10 years ago with general malaise with the lack of creativity and variety with my spouse (who refused to do anything different in bed). I am very oral and he is not at all (giving or receiving)...an impasse. Honestly, I have had so many sex partners I can't keep track now (over 200 to date)and continue to this day. Married men, coupled, singles, your Dads and brothers..18-69, it has been fun indeed.I KNOW their dirty, kinky secrets and have fulfilled many of them with them because they could not share what they desire with the women in their lives. I am the 'other woman', a home wrecker to some, a SLUT/WHORE to many of you reading this but I am fulfilled doing these men whenever I desire cause I LOVE SEX of every variety. I am unapologetic and an opportunist and none of the men I am involved with know of one another or my twisted desires for casual relations!

- Female, 49 years old, married 20 years

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Good for you girl, you only LIVE once!If ladies can't meet their man's needs, you satisfy them and keep yourself happy at the same time.Stay safe in your travels.

- Female, 37 years old, married 12 years

I sleep naked. This morning I was awakened by my little dog licking my pussy to awaken me....and I .....LOVED it...to be honest. He was down there for what seemed like hours, gently licking away. I have never had that before, it felt good, bad and kinky at the same time.I was feeling like I was gonna cum over and over...so I just let it happen and the licking escalated....HE LOVED IT. Thought of sharing this with my husband, but he would be jealous of the dog, cause he has not made me cum like that EVER. I can't stop thinking of it now...is that a bad thing?

- Female, 40 years old, married 10 years

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Is taboo but you enjoyed it and no one has to know but you and the dog. I have heard of this but never done it (has me thinking now, hmmmm).

- Female, 40 years old, in a relationship for 7 years

That I have emotionally naked and invested in a tell-all online relationship with a married man from the UK (I am Canadian) for quite some time.We chat about EVERYTHING and he hears my inner desires and feelings, and I his. I love having this outlet to talk to and not be judged; he is a mind saver to me.Would never have this possibility without the internet. Anyone else experience this online situation?

- Female, 47 years old, married 15 years

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